Wow, man -- that was a major event in this world of separation you've been going through. All in all, I also think it was a good thing (the right thing?) to do. It took a lot of courage to say what you did, and I think it is really giving W a lot to process now. The latter I think is very important, right now. She has been holding the reigns for some time now, and this shows her that time is NOT on her side anymore. She will have to weigh her options more heavily now in order to make a decision. What makes what you said okay DB-wise is that you are getting to (or are at) a place where you are ready to cut bait with her. This isn't a manipulative technique, though it kind of plays that role. This is reality, and you are ready to move on if she decides that she doesn't want to reinvest in YOU and the M. I'm hoping she will, though (and I know you are too), and I think you being away with the kids for a week will give her ample time to reflect on everything.
Glad you're doing so well, my friend! Keep up the PMA as you face this new phase in your DBing and life!
