Yes, Julie. I too feel like every birthday should be celebrated with a cake and some fanfare.
F21, you do have a point about teaching the kids how they should treat their mom.
On some level it does bother me that he didn't even try and perhaps he isn't even thinking it was a big deal since last year I told him not to say anything to the kids and that I did not want to celebrate. Maybe he thought that was the going forward plan.
And Nikki, perhaps the key is not about having expectations about your birthday but communicating with H up front about what the plans are. Part of me thinks that I set H up to fail because I sort of knew he'd do nothing, yet I at least wanted a celebration with my family.
And Cadesmom, maybe you're right. H isn't that kind of guy, but that doesn't mean that I can't say what I want.
Me: 41 H: 42 Married: 13Y, together 24 Kids: S11, S9, D6 Bomb: 7/11/06, now piecing
