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Morgan, I'm sorry but I think the job thing might be an awesome thing to focus on now. You can't change him. Work on you sweetie. I'm sorry.


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Well, I am going to focus on the job. I will not miss out on yet another opportunity because of him. It is a great opportunity. I have been the one to sacrifice things for this relationship. He has "never had a choice" because he is in the Air Force, which I guess is true because he doesn't have a say in where he lives. Anyway, the job may not work out...but it isn't going to be because I didn't try.

I don't guess packing the rest of his stuff up and leaving it outside would be DBing? It's strange how I go through a sad/mad cycle without even talking to him. Last night I was sad, this morning I just feel anger.


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Yeah I wouldn't put it outside....but you could put it in a storage place in your house. For me, it's kind of therapeutic..actually I just did some of that last night.


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Hmmm...maybe I will do that this weekend and leave it in the extra room. I need to get the closets cleaned out anyway if we are going to sell.


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might make you feel better to do that


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Wow. Just got a call to go to lunch with him. What's that about?? He said he was tied up and wouldn't be able to leave at the usual time and asked if I might be able to leave late. (My boss changed my lunch hour to be the same as his a couple of months ago because he was calling so much to go to lunch and I would ask if I could leave early). We are short handed today so I told him that I had to go at my normal time. He said if he could leave in time he would call me. What was that?

Right now I am wanting to do everything I can to be able to go with him...but on the other hand I would be once again catering to him.


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yeah I know that feeling....waiting around to see what he might do.



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Any suggestions on if I should try to go? I know that I could, but should I put that much effort into it at this point? Does that make me look desperate?


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if you're able to break away, go. Hell, go to lunch anyhow -- tell him you're going at X time, he can meet you there if he can - otherwise enjoy time to yourself....


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Well, I didn't go to lunch with him. I called him and told him I couldn't, and if he wanted to go another time to give me a call. I called my counselor at lunch. He went to see her last week and she also thinks it is over. That wasn't encouraging because she has always made me feel like there was a chance. It is going to be a long weekend.


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