Ok, cemar, you just worked overtime and scrimped and saved and did without your new stereo equipment to buy your wife a diamond necklace for anniversary. She is delighted and you both feel great but the following week she asks, "So, honey, when am I going to get the matching earrings?"
You did it once and enjoyed it so what's your problem?
Oh, time and money invested are inherently more valuable than courage/emotion/sexuality invested? I thought your general viewpoint tended in the *opposite* direction ...
To recieve a pushing-their-comfort-zone generous gesture with the attitude, "Why can you NOT keep doing it?" when repetition is not forthcoming seems like the ultimate in entitlement, and frankly, ingratitude.
It was what it was; it's her body and her decision. If we are talking about the same incident and my memory serves, I highly doubt golf-course blowjobs are a regularly-recurring feature in too many marriages.
I have been guilty of this myself (being visibly or vocally disappointed when repetition of a fantastic experience was not immediately forthcoming) and do not now like how it looks.
"Show me a completely smooth operation and I'll show you someone who's covering mistakes. Real boats rock." -- Frank Herbert
