just found this on another site and don't want to lose it:

http://al.turtlecounseling.com/blog/_archives/2005/3/8/410458


I have also learned to never go after, or pursue, a person who is fleeing. After all, their lizard already is running from “imagine death.” This is why stalking doesn’t work. Note: when someone pulls away from you, in panic, give them an assist. Help them get away. They will come back all the quicker. Since it was typical of me to pursue my partner, I put up a sign at home. “You will never get love by chasing a lizard!” The sign helped me.


Sitting quietly doing nothing, the flowers bloom effortlessly.

bomb: Jan 25, 2006
not seen since
DD moved in with H - 9/1/08
H filed for divorce - 11/2008
Divorce dismissed by courts - 4/2010
still nothing