My little glimmer of hope just fizzled out

[kaydeekay]

Venting:

After H being in MLC for nearly 3 years, why is he still spewing at me?

The only time I contact H is about child support and financial stuff. Today I called him and left a VM about child support and a financial matter he was to handle. Well the financial matter (a loan) he has not been handling for over a year now and H and I are receiving collection notices. I have been nicely telling H for the past 3 weeks to make contact with Compnay X and work out some arrangements.

Today H calls me and tells about his co-worker that is in ICU from a severe car accident. H then tells me to call Company X and talk with them about what needs to be done. I calmly told H that he should be the one since he was the one who agreed to take the loan payments. Then all hell broke loose. H ranted and raved about how mean I was, how I thought he wasn't good enough, didn't earn enough money, how he bent over backwards for me, he gave me $600 for a furnance (actually he gave $100), he gave me Christmas money two years in a row while he did without, he didn't have nice things for himself, how the IRS are up his a@@ for payment, everyone has their hand out for money, and on and on it went.

It was as though he was holding this all in and just went off on me. H over exagerated everything and put the blame on me again. He has not done this in a long time. H sees that all I'm wanting from him is money.

Since we are not D he is only paying half of the child support that would actually be owed to me. I asked H if he knew how much he would have to actually pay if we were D. H replied yes it's XXX amount, that's no problem. H also told me not to call him for anything else. I don't call him for anything other than what he owes to me. I hate even to call him for that but if I don't then he won't pay or will just blow me off.

I just don't understand why I got dumped on like this. I keep telling myself not to take it personal but it made me angry when all I've been doing is be nice to him.