Why would you feel guilty - why? Ah, maybe the fact that she has told me she now finds them gross and disgusting. Yep, I guess that pretty much kills the atmosphere.
I don't think this is the "willingness" anyone is talking about (not me, anyhow). "Willingness" is what ComfortablyNumb said about the peas. Not his favorite, be just fine without them for the rest of his life, but she likes them and she's serving them, so he's happy to eat up. What *you* seem to be talking about is me eating liver. "This crap makes me gag and you know that; thank you *SO* much for serving it, now I have to eat it or you'll get your feelings hurt."
Having made that statement about finding them gross and disgusting (have you asked her recently, in a peaceful moment, if that is still her opinon?), if she blows you, she is not being willing, she is being a martyr. Not the same thing.
Although that may be *her* problem (why would she so demean herself as to do something she considered gross and disgusting?), it's understandable that you might feel guilty about it, knowing (you think) how she feels. On the other hand, why would you put pressure on her to "eat the liver"? (think we may have just hit a new low in euphemisms).
Originally Posted By: cemar2
And why would willingness cause resentment? It usually does, and for BOTH sides. Willingness maybe a place to start, but at some point, usually real passion for that activity must be developed, otherwise resentment creeps in on BOTH sides.
TRUE willingness does not cause resentment; martyrdom does.
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