Monogomous Nympho Frustrated by Sexy LD Hubby

[loonyqt]

My husband is HOT! I'm fairly hot, too... even having gained a few pounds since the euphamistic bon-bon sometimes replaces the need for other preferrred physical-visceral satisfaction. I'm probably going to join a h20 polo team, so that will fix that.

In any rate - I'm 36/HD and he's 35/LD - together for 14 years (married 7 as of 9/3). Better than many on this board, we have sex about 3 times a month and neither of us (insofar as I know) has had an affair. Yet.

I am so very miserable and as of late overly focussed on my perceived lack of appropriate marital intimacy... I honestly think I would be happy (as opposed to generally tolerant but occasionally resentful) dealing with day-to-day grind if only I could expect that my husband would want to escape with me every night in marital relation bliss. Maybe I'm an oxytocin junkie, but a nice little orgasm makes just about anything alright.

I'm really beginning to think/believe that our overall marriage may be better if that nasty little sex piece which f&cks up so much else, wasn't so much an issue because of a side-bar romping relationship for me.

I've read SSM and a few posts here, but need specific behavioral/supplemental advice.

How have HD women boosted their intimate encounters? I believe life is too short to be unsatisfied sexually, and that longevity is increased with good sex. I can masturbate just fine, but really want/need the benefits of the 2-to-tango scenario at least 3x/week as opposed to 3x/month...

Tangible advice to help reconnect with hubby (preferred) or suggestions as to why/why not an affair in this situation would help...

THANKS!

ps: I know there are telephone coaches as made available on this site, but if anyone knows a good therapist in San Diego area, I would appreciate the referral...