Two good points you made. Rock bottom. One never knows what bottom is for anyobne, but your caution is well-founded. Help. He needs to seek his own help. And that is why I said that if farmtown needs to approach the possibility of reconciliation...not not reconciliation, but a new marriage which is what it has to be, then she should say she is willing to look into it. Her H has a whole lot of work to do before then. And farmtown can take the time to be stronger. There are, however, no guarantees at all.
