I know what you are saying about the friends & I have to say for the most part they are not badmouthing him to any degree (I would never allow that) but they do think I am crazy for putting up with this! I tell them, you never know until you are in the situation.
I think I have given him all the space someone could possibly give while still living together. As far as the small talk, I am doing that but getting very short answers from him for the most part. And he has mentioned that he feels weird making small talk when there is all this bigger stuff going on which I can understand - so I think there needs to be a balance. If I gave up my persistance on the small talk & didn't bring up R talks - I think we would not speak at all! And that can't be good either. I think it has been several weeks since the last time I brought up the R...
Isn't that one of DB principles - is that if you are doing something for a while and it doesn't seem to be working - you need to change strategies?
