Plank removed from eye, too late for WAW 3

[Heimlich]

OT,

In general, you're right. I'll just say that she was relieved by what I said because she told me. I know from my original post, you can draw those conclusions, but I didn't say it that way. It was basically, we can have normal conversations, you don't have to walk on eggshells around me. I'm OK. I'm finding it impossible to convey the feeling of how I said what I said, but it had the same feeling of bringing her out of a funk when things were good between us.

Throughout our R, when she's in a bad mood, I usually just let her ride it out. She'll get tense and snappy and then let it go. This was more of a "I don't know if I can say anything around you without you snapping." I felt like I had to let her know that a normal conversation was possible.

I understand that DBing is about backing off and giving the other person space and I wasn't doing a good job of that consistently. My W and I have been together for a long time, we know each other well. I was stupid in saying most of what I've said in the last 10 days towards her. This wasn't.

FYI, that's a pretty good thumbnail of how not to speak to my W, or anyone, really.

Are any of your threads still around? Did a quick look, but found a lot of your comments to other folks, but not your stuff. Would love to read them.

Thanks again,

BD