Am I seperated? Looking for support/advice...

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That makes perfect sense, just tread lightly. I do think there is a balance to talking about the R, but only if your partner is open and willing.

I'm tending to the belief that focus on yourself, be pleasant toward your H, maybe even invite him to do something with you now and again (something low key) will get you further than bringing up the R. I believe you've expressed your feelings towards him already, so he knows. It seems like periodically taking a temperature reading of the R is often counterproductive.

BD