ooo. well, in that case... maybe after he gets back from his trip, you should follow up, and tactfully take him up on his offer to do the volunteer stuff directly. But only if he's in a positive communicative mood at the time.
About the pre-camping: like Nikki said, expectations are gonna drive you insane. try to drop em completely.
that being said....
Not replying to you, is rather disturbing. I'd say the probability he's off with some other woman, went up from 10%, to 30% Guilt stopping him from replying to your "have a nice time" wish. especially with your "joke" 'i'm totally jealous' quip. that might have hit a little too close to the mark for him.
Eh.. i can get a bit paranoid at times. I wouldnt want to get you all like that. but i think you do need to at least look an eye open to that possibility. There are sooo many people who have had a spouse act like yours, and then 2,3,4 months down the line, they finally find out they were cheating all along.
mixed signals/behaviours. On the one hand, the camping is a huge red flag. On the other hand, the volunteering is a much more positive one, i think. I'd guess that it's still very worth trying the volunteering together. hang in there. dont lose heart
Last edited by Dom R; 08/17/0704:33 PM.
My current status: june 2006. Wife ran out and filed D. Finalized Jan 11, 2010, after 12.5 years M. 3 wonderful sons caught in the middle
