I wouldn't say he is unsuccessful by any means, in fact I have always tried to tell him and get him to believe how smart he is & how lucky his company is to have him - but I think he has higher expectations of himself. I think he works twice as hard as I do, but I seem to have had the luck of the draw with my jobs/promotions.
I agree w/you on how damaging too many R talks can be - but I almost feel like it can be damaging to not discuss anything at all. I think there needs to be an appropriate balance. I think you also have to take the sitch & people's personalities into consideration and my H is not one to just openly express his feelings or come right out and say something. It is difficult for him (sometimes for me too!) - so I feel like every once & a while I need to reach out to him, to find out about his thoughts and to let him know that I am open to him. Also, knowing that one of the major issues in our relationship is communication - I feel as though not discussing it would just be perpetuating that issue. Does that make sense?
