And yet at the same time, it would never have come up, if I didnt "pressure" her, about how she never really tried during our marriage.
I guess I am thinking about the looooong term success of your M. I have always told myself from day 1 that I want H to feel like HE made the decision to come home so that he could never tell me he did it for the wrong reasons or something like that in the future...I guess it's for my own peace of mind too. If something were to ever come up, I don't want to hear that I "made" him come home. However, you make a good point referencing DR and not continuing to do what doesn't work. Maybe I just haven't had the guts to try something different or put the pressure on my H for fear of spewing or rejection, etc. At the end of the day, H is an adult and he can make his final decisions on his very own and can't blame me for "making" him do anything...and I guess if he really had a chip on his shoulder, he could twist any sitch and make it sounds like he came home for the "wrong" reasons.
I say go for it DR. You have more courage than I do and I commend you for that. I am very curious to see how this might turn out for you.
