In any event, the key thing is to really keep your mind off of it and not pressure her.
I intellectually "know" this.. its what is always said. And yet at the same time, it would never have come up, if I didnt "pressure" her, about how she never really tried during our marriage. Odd kind of contradiction of "what works vs what doesnt", isnt it?
In some ways, if I go with the DR "go with what works, change what doesnt" idea... I think i SHOULD pressure her... since in the past, she has used "i'm going to do some thinking over the next few days" to get me to leave her alone... and I DID... and she never talks about it again.
??? time to change my tactics ???
My current status: june 2006. Wife ran out and filed D. Finalized Jan 11, 2010, after 12.5 years M. 3 wonderful sons caught in the middle
