Just found out yesterday that my XH got a DUI over the weekend. I had thought he was starting to come out of this stage, but guess not! Silly me! I didn't help the situation at all--kind of added insult to injury when I left him a voicemail after he didn't answer his phone. He was supposed to come by and spend time with S15 but never showed up or called.
I was upset about that and his continual sightings with OW even though he has told me that they're "just friends" now. He said he wanted to move back home 3 weeks ago, but then kind of withdrew, so I lost it. In the voicemail I told him that the possibility of him moving back was not an option anymore. After seeing his car parked at her house on Sunday (she lives 2 blocks from my dad's house)--well, I just didn't have the patience anymore for fence-sitting. I had no idea he was in jail--he told me last night that was why his car was parked there. He was out with her son when he got pulled over and the car was brought there.
Now, since he was in jail and not with her, do I need to explain that I'm still open to the possibility of reconciling or just leave it alone. I thought he was making progress, taking baby steps, but maybe not. Has this happened to anyone else here? I wonder if this is "rock bottom". He didn't seem too upset when he told me about it, but more like he didn't want to have to deal with it. I also don't know if I should offer any help or not? Any suggestions would be greatly appreciated.
