OT is totally right. When I let go of holding the OW responsible, it was the start of letting go of my own hurt and pain.

Your H is a big boy, and he chose that affair himself. It's his responsibility, not hers (not in your M anyway).

SD

Me: 40
H: 43
H had EA from 2/06-9/06
Bomb 5/06
Piecing since 9/2006
3/2008: Boundary setting
7/2009: Boundary crossing~dropped my own bomb.
8/2010: Marriage finally on track!