LO, my h also "ended" A with OW, but he also wanted to "let her down slowly", and ended up more deeply into her. Now he finally "decided" to pack up the family and move back to our home town, I hope he will eventually end it with her. He is still contacting her via txt, email, phone, etc., but I am hoping and hoping that this really will end (soon, I hope).
Brace yourself. I can see many similarities in your sitch and mine, and I am sensing that you will end up in a good place. Keep the faith. At the same time, your H may fall more deeply with OW, and you may have to really give him the ultimatum before he will come back. Not suggesting that you do that now, or ever, just keep in mind that this is one of the possibilities.
I still feel that your M has a good chance. I agree with HB, that the problem is who will outlast who? Unfortunately H is in love with someone else other than you also. It does not mean that he does not love you (regardless of what he says), it's now a matter of who he loves more and if he counts the years of M into that "love" equation. If he only counts "love affection/feelings" ONLY, then OW at this time may have a heads up. If he is still using a little part of his brain, he will sooner or later realize that it is not just "the feeling", but commitment, love, being a team, all the years, history and all that will add up and you will weigh heavily on the scale.
Keep the faith. Hang in there.
M 38, H 38, two sons Met 20 years ago Married 13 years Bomb: Oct, 2006 DB: Started in Dec, 2006 H moved out for 3 weeks in Mar, 2007 H back home and piecing?
