Oh sweets... this just pulls my heartstrings. Birthdays are so important to me and I think my H was just starting to get that. My motto honestly is "everyone needs a cake on their birthday" and I would bring cakes to his class for students whose families wouldn't send treats on their bday. Enough about me, I digress. I guess this just hits me b/c it is so wrong. You need better than that. I know, I know. Expectations are a bitch. But birthdays are SPECIAL to me. So I am sorry that it went that way. Hugs to you. I know you're ok. I just wanted to tell you I'm sorry.