I can also relate to how you feel about OW and your H's job. I feel exactly the same way about my H's job. My H is the CEO of his Co. and OW left as soon as I knew about the A but even tho' it's all been 'cleared' up I feel that his workplace is tainted with what happened. I also can't stand seeing any of his staff - even tho' I know that the majority of them were very against what my H did. None of them had the guts to tell me what was going on and so I feel a combination of betrayed by them and ridiculed by them.
The loss of income etc would be a BIG thing but as I said to my H I would be happy to downsize our house and life style and do shifts in MacDonalds if it got him away from his work place - he laughed. Unfortunately, so much of who our S's are is tied up in their job/ career, that if they did make the change we ask for, we may end up causing more damage. Well that's what I have to tell myself to be able to live with it.
Saffie
Saffie me 46 H 46 M in 1986 D20,D18,S16,D13 H's A 01/05 to 07/06 H recommitted to M 07/06 renewed vows 09/06 Going from strength to strength
