This may help on the trust issue. I subscribe to "A Growing Marriage" emails from Dr. Gary Chapman. Every day I get an email. This week was about trust & intimacy. This was what today's said:
Our topic this week has been regaining trust and intimacy. Trust is based on the belief that I am loved, that my spouse has my best interest in mind. Trust is destroyed when the spouse's behavior indicates that my belief was wrong. The spouse has chosen to walk his own way rather than love me. But trust can be reborn, if my spouse repents and shows evidence of being trustworthy. Trust does not return overnight, but when your spouse shows by words and deeds that he or she is thinking about your best interests. When they do those things that express genuine love to you, trust begins to grow. Over a period of time trust can become strong again.
Why is trust so important in a marriage? Because without trust there can be no intimacy. We cannot be open and enter deeply into each others lives if we do not trust each other. Dealing with failures is a necessity for restoring trust and laying the foundation for rebuilding intimacy. And marital intimacy was God's idea. He said, "the two shall become one flesh."
Me: 38 H: 35 S4, S5, S10 Bomb 01/07 Wanted D - nothing would change his mind Numerous A's prior to D bomb; EA prior/during D bomb Piecing 04/07 Deployed for a year 05/07 Still Piecing 2010 M 11 yrs 05/10
