Perhaps what is needed is for CAC to step up to a more assertive, alpha male role and for you to let go of your control and allow him to exert that dominance and show his desire in the way that the manly CAC wants to. I can see where the man must do MOST of the taking charge in sex. Is it wrong in the Deida world to want the woman to initiate some of the time, or should it always be the man?
