She doesn't care for oral most of the time, I think because she associates it with the panic feeling. She also has mentioned several times that she doesn't think its fair to ask me for it because she thinks it is gross (I'm not allowed kiss her on the mouth afterwards). So I think it is a combination of less scary and less "icky" to her.
To be honest, I've struggled with this throughout the years. I have felt a certain "ick" factor about cac doing it on me, even though I really do like it. Comparatively speaking, I think I have it way easier doing him! I have no fears about Oing, so that's not the issue for me. I read a bit in Passionate Marriage about a woman who had a similar issue and I think Schnarch advised her to taste herself as a way to confront herself about it. Honestly can't imagine doing that! I don't know if it's hangups or sensory issues or a combination of both. I'm not overly thrilled with cac kissing me after, either. But I know he enjoys doing it and I enjoy having it done, so I'm happy to include it in our repertoire.
