Good or Bad??

[saffie]

lonelyolive,

Addicted to Love was a song by Robert Palmer. It's the one where he had all the chicks with black dresses and bright red lippie playing guitars around him while he sang. You know, the kind of sad male fantasy sort of thing.

I am so sorry that he was in contact with OW again. My H wanted to let down the OW gently when they finished because he had 'loved' her. I just wanted to rip her Fcuking head off He does now admit that he did never love her, and he said that without any prompting!!!

Even his last letter to her I felt was too wishy washy - basically he was a coward and he wanted to come out of everything being liked by all. In a real world how was that going to happen? He ended up being called a coward by both myself and OW and he looked hurt at that

Regarding your H's response to your letter, I know how painfull the waiting game is. The funny thing was tho' that in my sitch, on the evening he came home from work and had decided to discuss my letter with me, I sort of knew it was going to be that night as soon as he walked through the door. He didn't actually say he was going to talk about it when he came in and he waited a couple of hours before embarking on the conversation. (You have to remember I didn't know about his A at this time I just knew something was wrong. It was during this chat that he told me he had been having an A for the last 18 months). The feelings I had inside me before he started trying to discuss things with me had me so panicked that I actually went and curled up in a ball and hid under our bed - that's where he found me when he started to talk about my letter to him. As you can tell, mentally I was in a grim place. BUT....it did make things better in the long run. I am sure your H will get there in the end - they all just seem to have their own schedules which we can't influence unfortunately.

I am praying so hard for you.

(((((HUGS))))))

Saffie