First off there is not just one true way to DB - some things work in one sitch and not another. You need to be true to you and only you know how your H is going to respond. I handled it like you - demanding the truth.
MC is not the cure all either - unfortunately it's so dependent on the C and there are more bad ones than good ones.
Use DB'ing as your guideline and how it fits in your sitch - only your gut will tell you how to be...
Hang in there the long roller coaster ride is going to get bumpy before things get better!!
HB
Me41 H44 * M16 yrs * D13 S10 8/06 H wants a D * 1/07 OW Truth 2/07 Searated * 7/07 H moved home First Thread Surviving Separation Now Piecing