Hope.. You are right. We can only be the best women we can be. We can't control them. It's funny how they do come running to us to talk. My H says it's easy to be friends with me but we have no connection as well.
I also get completely opposite comments in a conversation:
I love you more than you'll ever know I can't live in a loveless marriage
I know you are working on changing some things and can see those changes happening Nothing has changed at all with you
I want out of this marriage, NOW We haven't even worked on our marriage
So, we just keep trying to stay sane in an insane world.