You might ask why you tell the story this way.

Why don't you tell it as follows:

"I learned something so sad about OW today. Apparently another guy already who is supposed to be in a committed R has been preying on her. It is so sad that she is vulnerable to the attention of men who are willing to mess up her life and her M just to get their rocks off somehow. Apparently, they are attracted to her because she can empathize with their pain. But, that isn't enough for them. They have to drag her into an EA just so they can keep getting their selfish needs met. At this point, OW has been so used and manipulated by these guys that it actually just makes her an easier target for the next guy to come along."

Cheating husbands are not innocent victims of femme fatales. Too many women here blame their H's infidelity on a third party.


Best,
Oldtimer