Yes it's been quiet here...SR continued

[OldFool]

morgan makes some good points. However, they may be more relevant for her given that she is much earlier in the process than you are. You've been around the block a bit more and that process changes one's perspective. Nevertheless, the questions she poses are always worthy of consideration.

My lawyer's pressuring me to go ahead and get this over with.

Don't let him/her make this decision for you! You need to come to this on your own. Remember, while attorney's like to think you work for them...they work for you! If you're uncomfortable with your lawyer's role (or what he/she thinks that role is), dump 'em...and quick.

Part of me also wants to so I get closure and so that I can move on with things that are pending such as buying a new car/house etc.

This is a common feeling after some time has passed. It is also a valid point. While I cannot say whether this is now of sufficient importance to your mental health that it trumps other aspects, I can say that as I approach a year of separation, the thought of getting the D and never having to see, talk, or have anything to do with my WAW again has become a very desirable result.

However, part of me says why should I make this easy for her...she should file. I know she'll do it on her own schedule but in the end does it really matter if I nudge the process along by filing the declaration of disclosure for example?

According to the information you provide at the end of each post, she filed some time ago. As a result, I am confused as to the question about making her file. Perhaps you can clarify.