My wife has been living with a friend of hers since we separated, in a small 2 bedroom apartment. Her friend is going to start having her 2 kids live with her and so my wife has to find somewhere else to live. She has an application in with the state for subsidized housing, but there is a 2 month waiting list. She has another friend with a room for her, but that friend already has 4 people living there and I would make it hard for her to have our son stay with her during her days of visitation. She hinted around to me if I had looked into getting a place of my own yet (I am staying at my mothers until I sucure a location for my business). I told her I was not looking for a place yet, not until I know where I am opening my store at because I want to have a house close to the business. She said when do you think that will be? I said I have no idea probably a couple of months at least, she said oh really that long.
A part of me thinks she wants to move back in together, but I can not say for sure. I know she was not happy with her currently living situation and now it seems to be getting worse.
I do not mind us moving in together, but I do not want us to return to the old ways of me doing everything and taking care of all her needs. Is there a way to move back in together and set some guidelines or a POJA to keep this from happening.
Should I approach her about moving back in together or allow her to do it? I think us being under one roof again could make it easier to work on things together. But, I also know it could be destructive and put us back to where we were.
“Do you want to be RIGHT or want to be LOVED” “You have to have a life to share a life with someone” “When you stop resisting, you start learning”
