H's/W's lie so as to protect their spouse from the pain of knowing the truth - nice, right? In their minds they are doing us a favor by lying - so sick.
you nailed it, that's exactly what my H said "I didn't want to hurt you by telling you things weren't working out" Oh yea? then asked him "how do you think I feel now? you were just about to find a place to live and leave me high and dry? don't i hurt even more now?" Boy, how painful others, like you, went/are going through this cruel process.
Be not afraid...I will repay you for the years the locusts have eaten Joel2
30something 2kids survivor of S, MLC, A, D I have peace in my heart, at last.