I have all those things and i still try to take the time to invest time into my friendships. If my friend invites me to dinner, then i will make the effort to invite her to do something the following week, call just to say hi etc.

Are you doing it out of obligation, because you friend will be upset if you don't reciprocate, or because you really want to and can find the time?

In the end though, if it works for you and your friends and all of you are happy then that's great.

My friends and I are just different. We tend to not worry about the quid pro quo stuff so much. We may spend a lot of time together talking and then when life is hectic we may not talk for days, weeks or months but no one gets mad or upset. Whether a friend will call back if I just leave a friendly message is unknown, but if I NEED something, no question my friends are right there for me and that's something I know I can count on. And vice versa.

By your standards I would probably be a horrible friend but my friends seem to think I am a great friend (unless they are just lying to me :)) Seriously we're not all the same so it is hard to always match up to what others do for you. We just appreciate what we can do for each other.



But what is happiness except the simple harmony between a man and the life he leads? ~Albert Camus