I think you have made some major progress here, congralulations! The answers you gave at dinner were spot on, you are getting stronger and are showing a man that W would be fortunate to come back to. The unfortunate part is that there could be a bunch more time involved. I have been at this quite awhile and get much of the same from my w when R talk does come up, which is few and far between now. There is no definite time period, but my original goal was to be back as a couple by March, well that has come and gone. I don't know how much more is left in me, as I am sure you don't. The point being, just when you feel you are at the end of your rope, reevaluate the reasons why you want your w in your life and gauge at that time. We each need to grow and evolve into the person we want to be, in the end I hope you and W can evolve into the couple you both want. For now, you can only "fix" yourself. I also wanted to thank the others who have posted (sandi and imlin) your words have spoken to me as well.
