The problem that I can see happening with me is that she chose to be with OM. If he has instigated the deteriation of the R, then it still means that W had stronger feelings for him than me.
That is something that I wont be able to forgive, that she loved him more than me. And she loved him that much that she has risked everything to be with him.
Her mother is depressed because of this, her dad is a shell of a man he once was. I went over there last week to pick DD up (as I was working and W had a function, so she got her parents to babysit).
I sat and chatted with my FIL for a couple of hours, had a few beers, then when I left he told me how much he loved me and hugged me harder than ever before. We did not discuss anything about W or myself or what was happening, it was more social chit chat.
She has put her family. my family, our friends and her DD through hell, for her own gratification. This is the hardest thing to overcome.
