Hi again. The more I read, the more our two guys sound alike. Mine has always been the one with few words, while I talked and talked (shock...huh?). Plus, I have also leaned over the years to back away and not press certain issues (as I was referring to "bursting at the seams to know what was going on in his head". I had to learn that lesson the hard way. It sounds like you have learned early, so that is good.

I really don't know what to tell you about this weekend and keeping the conversation flowing. However, I have learned that with our type of guys, they don't have the need to always have chattering going on....like we seem to want to have. The key is this....just make sure that you don't "appear" to be sulking or depressed or mad...you know. It seems everytime I am the least bit quite, my family thinks I'm mad! Then that makes me mad. (lol) They just know we are not acting the normal for us. So, try to have a pleasant look on your face when you are talking. (lol)

So, what I'm saying is....we need to learn to feel comfortable by just not saying anything. If we are watching TV, riding in a car, eating, etc. Over the years, I've learn to do that. Some other couples may think we just don't have anything to say....maybe some of that is true to some degree....but most of the time, you just don't feel that it is necessary to chatter away non-stop. A couple can be close without continually talking. I didn't believe that in our early years, but I think it is true (again ....up to a point). I still stand firm in the belief that if a couple doesn't communicate, they can't be close. However, there are different ways to communicate.

About telling him your ideas or plans for GALing....I'm not so sure about that. I mean...I don't know how he may interrupt that. Will he take it as a "threat" or "warning"? Or will he think you are just "blabbering" again. Who knows? Your guess is better than anybody else's.

Well, good luck. Hope all goes great. Let us hear.

Last edited by sandi2; 08/17/07 01:01 AM.
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