There and Back, #2

[SallyM]

does anybody else think about things, just wonder about the logistics, even if they are a ways off? I'm mulling over stupid things tonight. no idea why, not fixating on them, just mulling here. all of this is assuming, of course, that H and I are in the same place/further apart. (if things somehow or other change in a good way, well, these things won't be problems). yeah, I know these things are far off, but am I really the only one who thinks about stuff like this?

holidays...last spring I had them divided out (think it was one of those, find control somewhere since all else was out of control). h said he'd go along with whatever I wanted. I don't know anyone who is divorced/separated, so don't know what the norm is. I came up with: me (halloween), H (thanksgiving), me (x-mas eve/morning), H (x-mas day/night), me (easter). and yeah, I know halloween isn't a major holiday, but its fun so I threw that in there..actually, I had 4th of july in there, too (his). is this a normal way to divide things? seems fair to me, but will be weird not spending t-giving with the kids. will be weird not hosting a huge group, actually...since we were first married, H and I have hosted all the holidays, both sides came if they could. obviously that will change.

how the hell am I going to get the christmas tree in the stand this year? I know the farm I'll take the kids to, and I know they'll tie the tree on my car and such. but getting the thing in the stand/up straight will be...interesting. yeah, H would probably help if I asked him to, but if we are still apart, I don't want to ask him. hmmmm. I'm stubborn, hate asking for help from friends and such...will I relent on this? might have to.

christmas cards...do I write, from the "x" family? or do I write my name and the kids and leave it at that? that will be easier if we are definitely divorcing, but if we are still in limbo, therein lies the question.