I know how you feel about continuing a R with H. Try stepping back as much as you can from him and detach with all your might. Only speak with him when you have to. The less you deal with him, the more he`ll notice your pulling away.
I don`t see where it`s any of your IL`s business about what you do or who with. Don`t let them intimdate you. Be respectful and cheerful around them and don`t get dragged into any drama.
