Weird stuff about OW

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I recently learned some strange stuff about OW, and it made me realize how manipulative and opportunistic some people can be. In some ways it's really difficult for me to believe anyone can be this incredibly selfish and shallow. I know not every OP is like this, but there are some who are almost predatory...

First I'll give some background for anyone unfamiliar with my sitch.... over a year ago my husband was in a management class through work. This was a once-a-month class where employees from other parts of the company (thoughtout the U.S.) would fly in for a week and attend one week of daily classes 8-5. Some evenings after class all the classmates would go out for dinner, socialize, etc.... Anyhow, after a couple of months my husband started hiding his cell phone, getting SUPER angry at me about little things, and saying he wanted a divorce... tensions got higher, he moved down stairs, he became angrier and filed for divorce.

Just before the filing, I did hire a PI, got his cell phone records and learned about OW (i.e. personal info., address, husband's name, 2-year-old child, etc...) I contacted OW and told her that I was going to tell her husband about everything. She completely denied the affair. I sent a copy of the phone records to her husband. Apparently she was able to assure her husband nothing was going on and continued her affair (long distance). I eventually learned about her husband's work number, called him direct and shared all information I knew. The $hit hit the fan!!! Everyone flipped out, she said she loved her husband and would never talk to mine again. My husband was furious at me... but I didn't care we were in divorce. I only told her husband because I felt he had a right to know and maybe there was a chance he could fiigure out what was missing in the marriage and create a better one.

Well... that all was over a year ago. sooo....

Recently, a very good friend of mine was out with a woman she recently met. This woman happens to live with a guy my husband worked with. Also, they both had been in that management class. Apparently this woman was very upset with her boyfriend. She said he has this "cozy" friendship with a woman from work. Her boyfriend tells her she shouldn't be upset because this woman lives in another state, is married and has a little baby. She mentions the woman's name to my friend and my friend puts two and two together and realizes it was my husband's OW!!!!

In other words OW has been having multiple affairs!!! Maybe even had an affair with my H and this OW's boyfriend at the same time!!! (Yuck!!!). This boyfriend she has is no winner. His marriage ended because he had a problem with affairs. The details I learned is that their relationship has mostly been through the computer and phone (the class has been over for a long time)... He shared the emails with his girlfriend and she learned that they complained about their problems to each other. Her unhappiness with her husband and he was sharing any problems with his girlfriend. She'd also send sexy photos of herself, describe her lingere and write things like... "Are you still with that woman?" never referring to her by name.

Anyhow... that's the crummy stuff I learned about OW. It kind of makes me angry that this person seems to enjoy searching out weak, troubled men, wheedling into their lives by sharing her problems, encouraging them to share theirs and creating a relationship based on this.... then working to destroy other people's relationships.