vacation is over, I am leaving

[limbo]

Thanks all, it great to have you all to turn to, because I haven't told anyone about the lastest, as they will all think I am nuts....and i think that the same thing about myself.
Why can't I just walk away, I wouldn't let anyone else treat me this way so why him?

I have realized a couple of things, the first is that no matter how much you try to spy it doesn't make a difference, they can still get around you, and you are right detach! and thats what I am doing, I have learnt my lesson!
I told him that he and we had to go into counseling, and he was all gung ho to call yesterday, now nothing, also I said he had to end it with ow and he said he would email her and blind copy me, still nothing!
How long do i let this go on, what do I do, I just don't know what to do for the best, yes I am thinking of the kids, but I have to think of my sanity...how much more of a beating can I take?