You said "I know I did this all wrong but couldn't help it and not sure I care, not sure I want to be with a liar and a cheat. Realize that I need to calm down, take it slow, get back to serious DBing.
First what happened happened, there is no wrong or right there is just different. We all back slide. You just need to wipe yourself off and start DBing again. You got it off your chest. Now don't snoop again. Don't mention Katie again. (Except if it comes up in MC)
Then: But, assuming we make it to an MC, I can't DB while I'm there, right? The lies, the cheating, it's all got to go on the table at the first appointment, right? I'm confused about how I handle myself at the MC session. "
Yes you can DB/GAL there is nothing wrong with it. You are not cheating you are living. And what is put on the table during MC is up to both of you. That is the place to get it out but what happens there should stay there.
Husband (trying to take Theo's place)
And if I claim to be a wise man, well It surely means that I don't know
