Ok, this doesn't directly relate to validation and I'm not sure if there is any insight here or not but here's a story and Cemars story reminded me of this. A long, long time ago when I was truly LD, H and I went golfing and then on a picnic. In the park we were pretty isolated but they were some people so not exactly alone. I gave H a full BJ and enjoyed it. There was no reciprocation it was all for him and I was (struggling to find the right emotion to put in here... ) well I was happy, proud, (remember I was LD)I felt really good about giving.. anyway all kinds of feelings. Well, for probably two years, and I don't think I am exagerating, could even be longer all I heard from H was "You want to go on a picnic?" and it bugged the h*ell out of me. Sad part is I don't know why other than I think I went into good girl, mom mode & thought what did I do? Cemar- Do you ever pressure her about what she used to do?
Love at first sight is easy to understand; it's when two people have been looking at each other for a lifetime that it becomes a miracle. (Amy Bloom)
