Absolutely! I constantly tried to transmit my thoughts and feelings by making them belong to my husband. For instance, instead of saying, "I don't want to be with you" I'd say, "YOU don't want to be with me." I told myself and my husband he could find better than me, that he'd be happier without me. My OM, however, did very little to try to influence me. Really he mostly just allowed me to build up steam and complain about my husband and fed my childish impulses.
The grass may be greener, but then again, it may also be astroturf. ~Amy C Brown
