MrsCac, Maybe you could ask him to shower every night before coming to bed, explaining that it doesn't mean sex, but that the smoke smell really bothers you and makes it hard for you to even cuddle up or whatever. Seems it would be a win/win, since it would open the door to spontenaity for him as well. Do you shower before bed too? Maybe putting that into your routine as well might make it more enticing for him.
