Yeah but that's the question Burg is asking Cemar, isn't it? Cemar is not rejected directly because he says his wife will make love. He feels his rejection indirectly from the fact that she does not initiate making love.
So when rejected, we can not help but feel hurt.
So what's the answer, to never say no to someone you love because you don't want to hurt them? That does not seem healthy either. If you always say yes to them, then by definition you end up saying no to yourself which then becomes self-denial doesn't it? That's not healthy for relationships either.
Couldn't the answer be to not take the answer "no" as a rejection of your core being but to see it as the answer to the question at the moment?
But what is happiness except the simple harmony between a man and the life he leads? ~Albert Camus
