MrsCac4, Yep, it is frustrating for me, and I think for her too because she feels guilty for getting "worn out". We've talked about it some, but at the wrong time. Talking to her after she shuts down is definitely the wrong time. She feels guilty and a bit inadequate about it, doesn't understand it, and feels it is just the way she is.
When we go to IC, she's always in a rush to get it going. If I can hold her off, she seems to get hotter. She doesn't care for oral most of the time, I think because she associates it with the panic feeling. She also has mentioned several times that she doesn't think its fair to ask me for it because she thinks it is gross (I'm not allowed kiss her on the mouth afterwards). So I think it is a combination of less scary and less "icky" to her. I'll look for your comments on your thread.
