Fearless - Is it any less enjoyable to play tennis if you called your friend to play tennis instead of them calling you to play tennis? Isn't the point that you are playing tennis?

Mrs. CAC4 - It might be if you spent the whole time believing that your friend didn't really want to play tennis, but was just going along with it to make you happy, or shut you up, or get you to stop calling, etc., etc. After all, if your friend *really* wanted to play tennis, he would have called right?

But then again if your friend had to call you, then now that friend has to have all the same anxiety. He has to worry the whole time that YOU really didn't want to play tennis but are only doing it for him.

Do people really live their lives thinking like this? I think I would go mad.

I TRUST that my friends say yes because they WANT to say yes. A friend had asked about getting together last fall and I said sure but I want to watch the OSU football game if that's okay. She replied "no, it's not so I'll just do some scrapbooking that night." Neither of us was upset with the other because we both expressed our needs and they just didn't match up. It didn't mean that we didn't like each other any more or were any less of friends because she didn't validate my OSU interest and I didn't validate her scrapbooking interest.



But what is happiness except the simple harmony between a man and the life he leads? ~Albert Camus