You have a lot of life ahead of you. I am truly sorry that it has come to this for you. You (and most of us here) deserve so much better than the hand our spouses have dealt us. I am genuinely sad for you. And, listening to my wife (and watching her actions with OM), I am right behind you.
I have no doubt that you will bounce back. You are attractive, well-educated, articulate, and intelligent (I know this from reading your posts and seeing your pics). Hang in there, and have confidence in yourself.