Go get some Biotin for your hair (I take Jarrow's 5mg which is super potent).. the only bad thing about this stuff is you'll have to highlight more often because hair seems to grow faster... another thing is the natural progesterine cream... helpful when you're premenopause...
I think there may be something to Aud's comment about the H not coming out of the behavior until the LBS has given up or moved on. This may not be the case for everyone, but I can relate to that. Before the divorce filing, I spent three years trying to convince my husband to wear his wedding ring. I'd wear mine, tell him that it was important to me because it was a symbol of our marriage, etc... and he'd make excuses... well, a lot of married guys don't wear wedding rings, I won't wear it until the marriage is better.... yada yada yada... Also, the first time he filed for divorce and I convinced him to stay and try... apparently... and I didn't know this but my lawyer told me... he only put the divorce on "HOLD." So he didn't actually stop it. At the time I had believed he completely stopped it. And thinking back about how hard I was working to pull things together and even believed things were good... because I really put EVERYTHING into making him happy... gosh, that was like a total slap in the face!!!
Anyhow...now to my point... this time, for the first time I did let go of my marriage and truly detached (although husband forced me into that one! He had me completely convinced it was over). So this time we reconciled I've been very different. I gave up on the wedding ring issue because... well... now I was the one who wasn't sure I wanted to wear one. I was fully happy to never bother with wedding rings, but my husband was the one who searched through the closets and found his ring (that I had stored away for the kids because he had left it when he moved out), had it resized and began wearing it. Eventually I put mine back on. Also, my husband STOPPED the divorce this time and my lawyer merely put it "on hold."
I used to hate that he'd go out with a guy friend or two on a weekend night ("for dinner") and stay out until midnight. For years, I felt resentful and angry about it. But not anymore! Heck, I go out with my girlfriends and have a great time. Last night he went out to dinner with people afterwork and I went out with a good girlfriend and chatted with friends I met last summer. Interestingly, I think he is now much more bothered by all of this than me. I think he he may be feeling a little uncomfortable about this. It's like the tables turned!!!! In some ways I'm kind of glad because he finally gets to understand what it feels like. He's the type of person who needs to experience things to understand them. (Not that I'm having an affair or doing anything remotely like that). But I like myself, I like meeting and talking with people, I'm enjoying my life, my kids, my pets and I'm just thankful for whatever I have regardless of what H does...
I don't know if any of this is helpful to you. I do struggle with things sometimes, but I like to think the struggles only make me stronger in the long run...
There is no arriving, ever. It is all a continual becoming.
