You are moving on. I can tell, not just by what you write but the way you write it. There is a risk of course because continuing your patience might give you the outcome you truly want, eventually. Maybe a dose of reality is what she needs. You have worked really hard and your insight into your situation is staggering.
I feel I'm reaching that point too. Like bad medicine, I don't want it, but if it's going to save my life, I'll take it.
Glad you're back; thought you had disappeared and where would I be without my pimpernel?