Kidding, sort of. I would have been alerted to the fact that there were problems and hopefully have reacted the way she needed me to. Reality is I dont know exactly what I would have done, only what I hope I would have done.
The only basis I have is how I handled it all once the bomb dropped and since I fought for her then, I would hope I would have fought for her before it.
Absolutely Annie. My W's problem was that she never spoke of us having trouble. She held it in and didnt talk enough. We never fought, I used to think that was a good thing, now I know it was very bad. Hell we had some of our best sex two weeks before the affair/bomb, what an opportune time that would have been to open her mouth.
